Struggling With Infertility

The part that I find the hardest in regards to IVF, Miscarriage, and Infertility is the loneliness. Unless you have gone through the pain it’s very hard to understand just how isolating it can be. I can talk about parts of the process and struggle with close friends (Ok, its really about 4 people that I talk to), but in the end they really don’t understand. They don’t understand how time-consuming the process becomes. How the majority of my day is spent thinking about getting pregnant, thinking about IVF, and thinking about how lucky everyone else is who can get pregnant naturally.

They don’t understand that the spare bedroom in my house is a constant reminder of what I don’t have. I have re-painted the room and thrown in some furniture, but it’s still a reminder. A reminder of what it’s meant for, what it’s supposed to be.

I found this video on you tube a few months back and I feel that it hits so many points right on the mark. I wanted to share it with you.


7 thoughts on “Struggling With Infertility

  1. Oh my, I cried when the lady first cried in the video. Thanks for sharing.

    We just cleared out space for what will be a ‘nursery’ room and sold whole bunch of furniture so we have more space. The room isn’t completely empty yet, it has a desk and shelves in it, but I know when I walk in there that it is in fact empty 😦


    1. I thought this video was worth sharing. It’s the first one I found after a couple miscarriages and it really hit home for me. I think that the sorta empty room is the worst for me. I know what I want to use to for, but can’t. Someday. 🙂 XO


  2. Thank you for sharing, it really does hit the nail right on the head. I can completely relate to this video and your post. I never knew how difficult going through infertility was until we experienced it. I just have to believe there is light at the end of the tunnel. Someday we will be blessed with little ones. Some day.


  3. I am actually the film-maker of that video. We had spent years trying to conceive ourselves which is why I think it rings of truth to folks who share the same experience.
    The room scene was actually filmed in the spare “nursery” room of our house. I came home to find it fully decorated as a nursery for the purposes of using as a set for the film the next day. I sat and cried in that room almost all night because even though it was set up “just for pretend” it looked just like I imagined it would when we had our kids. The next day after filming and all the crew was gone it was empty again.


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