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The Next Steps

I am ready to take the next step forward and figure out where do I go from here. I didn’t think I would get here so fast, but here I am, ready to move on. There are things that I want to figure out and get in order before we get scheduled for our next transfer.

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Right after my procedure I was adamant with my hubby that I was ready to switch doctors and move on from there. However, as the anesthesia wore off I became a little less decisive in my next step. I am not officially ready to just ditch my doctor and get another opinion. I decided that I will hear him out and listen to what he thinks is next for us. If I don’t like his answers then I will seek a second opinion. However, I don’t think that I will like what he has to say as the other day he was already spewing out words like donor eggs and surrogacy. So we will see what he says.

I did however, really liked the doctor that I met with to do my procedure. She also works at the same clinic and I have been thinking about switching over to her care. The one draw back is that she said I couldn’t just do a consult with her, I would have to officially switch over from the start. I am not a fan of that course of action, as I think that it sounds a little drastic. At the moment I am in the mood to shop doctors and not make any lifetime commitments.

The lady doctor is newer to the clinic than my doctor and therefore doesn’t have as many patients. I can’t decide if that’s better or worse. More patients means a doctor is more established, but also that he is very busy. While, fewer patients could mean that she will focus more on me and my case.  My doctor is well-known and has a lot of successes, but I just worry that I won’t be one of his success stories. I don’t feel that my case is cut and dry. I really believe that my fertility struggles stem from my autoimmune issues and not every doctor believes in going down that route.

I have also been looking into CCRM to get a consultation scheduled with them to see if there is anything they would do differently. I figured this could be my third step after I have exhausted all my resources at my fertility clinic. I just know that I need more answers before I transfer one of my embryos, as my supply is very limited.

In regards to what I eat I have decided to go back to a strict gluten-free diet. I have read a lot about hypothyroidism and the importance of sticking to a gluten-free diet.  In the past I have tried to maintain a gluten-free diet, but have cheated on certain occasions and haven’t always paid attention to the sources of gluten. When I go for sushi I forget that soy sauce contains gluten and when I want a blizzard I don’t pay attention to the heath bar that is blended in there.  So, for the next 30 days I won’t allow myself to cheat. It will suck and be hard, but I believe it will make a difference.

Last summer with some wine and family. You can bet I will be repeating this next week.
Last summer with some wine and family. You can bet I will be repeating this next week.

The one thing that I have decided not to do is limit my wine intake. I’ve been without wine for far to long and I am going to take a few weeks to enjoy a glass or two on these hot summer days. I can only make so many sacrifices at a time.


16 thoughts on “The Next Steps

  1. I think u are doing all the right things. We are actually shopping around too right now since our current RE doesnt seem to have a handle on our situation. We are like u… Not the typical patient obviously! I am planning to discuss autoimmune with the new Drs. as well. I am curious to hear what u find in this area-please keep me posted! And enjoy all the wine u can for now, u so deserve it 😍


    1. Ugh, isn’t it so annoying to not be the typical IVF or RPL patient? I just wish IVF was the answer and we didn’t have to look into all this other stuff. Especially when it comes to autoimmune issues, as most doctors don’t really understand that arena. I will most definitely let you know what I learn and I look forward to hearing what your doctor says. xo

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      1. Definitely! I wish IVF had been our answer like we thought it would be when we began this process. Little did we know what we were in for!! I agree, lots of Drs. dont believe in the autoimmune stuff as a cause of RPL or aren’t that educated in it. To me, all avenues should be looked into at this point! Im sure u feel the same.

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  2. I wish you the best as you move forward in your journey. I have done both my successful IVF cycles at CCRM. Im lucky enough to live in Denver. They are one of the best in the country and I encourage you to take a look!


  3. I’m with you on the wine!! That’s my treatment of choice at the moment too!! 🙂 I’m being treated by a specialist in reproductive immunology at the moment, so if I can help at all with anything on this then please drop me a line on tryagainbloglady@hotmail.com. I’d be very happy to help 🙂 but in the meantime just enjoy the wine and the summer – lots of love xxx


  4. I love your list! I too, switched doctors within the same clinic. The Dr. I originally had was the one who started the clinic, is well known and very established. But, owning the clinic also means being preoccupied, and I felt it. I too, am not an ordinary, cut and dry case. I switched to a lady dr. at the clinic and have had a lot better relationship and experience with her. Still not pregnant, but I definitely feel more of a priority. Good luck to you and enjoy that wine! PS… I live in Seattle and my in-laws live in Portland. I fully understand the importance of taking advantage of the summer we’ve been having so far. it’s freaking amazing!! 🙂


    1. This summer weather is crazy amazing, but borderline way to hot. 🙂 I have a feeling that if I switch doctors I will be happier and I will feel more valued. I don’t know what it is, but I feel that lady doctors are just more empathetic. But, I am giving my doctor one last shot. Enjoy these hot summer days!

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  5. Your strength, and determination is awe inspiring…it looks like a great list to move forward with and I hope your consult with Dr B goes well. Going gluten free is soooo hard especially eating out :-/ I’m liking wine treats!


  6. CCRM is great! Definitely worth the shot. Everything I have heard they are the best of the best in the country. I have been happy so far with everyone. I have only been doing IUI’s so far, but hopefully it works!


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